Adult friend Peterson

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The answer is quite a lot. There is a trade-off between quality and quantity and we consistently under-cultivate what is most important. It is appropriate and praiseworthy to associate with people whose lives would be improved if they saw your life improve Adult friend Peterson Make friends with people who want the best for you. Complete the exercise, I said, by noting the proportion of time that you spend with the person, talking or doing something together — exclude time spent with someone where they are not the main focus of attention, for example, watching a movie or television.

There is therefore no need to extend your list beyond ten. The upshot is plain — we nearly all spend too little time with our dearest friends, and too much time with people whose contribution to our happiness and achievement is minimal or even negative. Spend your time and emotional energy reinforcing and deepening the relationships that are most important. I added that there is another trade-off between quality and quantity of which we should be aware. Anthropologists observe that the of exhilarating and important personal relationships we can establish is limited.

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The typical pattern of people in any society is to have two childhood friends, two ificant adult friends, and — perhaps incidentally — two doctors. Typically, there are two powerful sexual partners who eclipse all others in terms of their total relationship value.

Most commonly, you will fall in love only once or sometimes twiceand there is one member of your family whom you love above all others.

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In an African village all these relationships happen within a few hundred metres, and are often formed within a short period of time. For us in the West, these relationships may be spread all over the planet and over a whole lifetime. They nevertheless constitute a village which we each have in our he. And — the punch line — once these slots are filled, they are filled forever. The anthropologists say that if you have too much experience, too early, you exhaust your capacity for further deep relationships.

This may explain the superficiality often observed in those whose profession or circumstances force them to have a great of relationships — such as sex workers, salespeople, or those who move house very often. J G Ballard cited a case example of a rehabilitation project in California for women who were around 20 or 21 who mixed with criminals.

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The program introduced them to new social backgrounds, to middle-class volunteers, who befriended the young women and invited them to their homes. Many of the girls had been married very early, had their first children at 13 or 14 — some had been married or in relationships three times by the time they were They had sometimes had hundreds of lovers, some of whom were then shot or jailed.

The project was a fiasco. The women were incapable of forming any deep new relationships. They were all used up.

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Their relationship slots had all been filled, forever. The conclusion — fill your relationships slots with extreme care, and not too early! A good, healthy person is an ideal. It requires strength and daring to stand up near such a person. My approach is more optimistic and hedonistic.

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I agree with Peterson that your close friends should want the best for you. But his approach is moralistic, whereas mine appeals to what you enjoy. We may not see our best friends very often, for the simple reason that they are spread out around the world.

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My remedy is that you make a special effort to see your best friends, or at least to talk to them online — and cut out time with people who are not your good friends. Peterson is not appealing to your self-interest, except in the long run. He is appealing to you to make the best possible version of yourself, which will be hard in the short and medium term. I think this is great advice, but I would get there by baby steps, and by appealing to your sense of enjoyment and relish for life. His vision of the world seems to me to be unnecessarily grim.

Maybe I have just been luckier in life. We are often our own worst enemies.

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If we realize this, we can take steps to be happier and more productive. And if we are happy and productive, we automatically help other people. Very few things in life are so important; very few things are done so little. About Author Investor Press. Without relationships we are either dead to the world — or dead. I invited readers to do this exercise to test my hypotheses: Write down the names of your top 20 friends, ranked from 1 downwards Allocate points to the 20 friends in terms of the value of the relationship to you.

For example, if the first person on the list is exactly as important as the 19 others, allocate 50 points to him or her.

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You may need to have more than one run at the s to make them add up to For example, two may be two-thirds or half as important as one, and three may be the same proportion as two, and so on. The Village Theory Anthropologists observe that the of exhilarating and important personal relationships we can establish is limited. Subscribe to my blog posts. Media Blog Books Podcasts. Contact This address is being protected from spambots. All rights reserved.

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