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You and your lover sound pretty selfish.
I am in love with a married woman w ho has a young. We have been lovers for six years, having met before she got married or pregnant. Until recently I was content with us being just lovers. I chose non-monogamy as a lifestyle, having meaningful relations with more than one woman at a time in a transparent and conscious manner.
Around 16 months ago, she told me that I was the love of her life and that from the moment she met me she knew she wanted to be with me. I also started to spend more time with her and her child, and began to fall more deeply in love with her.
We decided we wanted to build a life together and that she would leave her husband. I felt very hurt and kept going with my life, dating other women.
But I was comparing them with her and did not manage to truly bond with any of them. We got back in touch recently, and she is telling me again that she wants to build a future with me. She gets incredibly jealous of my other relationships, even though she sleeps with her husband every night. I am torn, because I feel that if she truly loved me she would treat me better, which is the advice I get from my close friends.
At the same time, I have never loved anyone the way I love her.Is There Any Value In Marriage for Women Today?
I am 40 and already divorced once. Should I give it one last chance, or move on and try to forget about her? I think the time to move on and forget about her should have been when she got married to some poor sod who had no clue that his wife was already in a relationship with someone else.
You and your lover sound pretty selfish and really emotionally immature. Neither of you seems able to truly own your feelings or to be able to consider the feelings of others. That sounds like self-harming through matrimony. And then she had with this man you gave no indication that the child is yours. It sounds like a mess, and when is involved, the grownups really need to be… grown up.
I wonder if the incredible connection you speak of is actually you both acting out some fantasy that, outside of her marriage, would be unsustainable. Real connection comes through honesty, not deception. Going for unattainable people is a classic of fear of intimacy. This is a futile but ultimately safe pursuit for those who fear intimacy because it is a relationship that is unhindered by reality. And with none of the drudgery of domesticity, it feels heady and exciting: a perennial honeymoon stage. If you were truly together, I wonder if you would lose some of the excitement.
So maybe, far from wanting a deep connection, you actually fear it. This might be worth exploring. Not to mention actually viable. Every week Annalisa Barbieri addresses a family-related problem sent in by a reader. If you would like advice from Annalisa on a family matter, please send your problem to ask.
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