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When Lieselotte Achilles went to meet Melbourne man Peter Leith at her local Gold Coast airport last February she immediately knew she had ''found her destiny''. They had been in contact for three months after meeting on the online dating site RSVP. Eighty-year-old Lieselotte readily admits she'd made the first approach - months of ing, phone and Skype calls quickly followed. Finally year-old Peter arrived for a visit. We found a love for one another never thought possible at our age,'' says Lieselotte.
Peter speaks glowingly of his new partner's radiant smile and the indomitable spirit of the woman who spent her early teens surviving bombing raids on her German town. The proud couple is part of a growing trend for older single people to the massive s now using online dating to search for a partner. The overall figures are staggering with up to people each day ing up as members of the largest site, RSVP.
Online dater Diane Rymple, Credit: Anthony Johnson. There's no independent way of checking membership figures but both RSVP and eHarmony claim to have 2 million members and more than 4 million people have apparently ed RSVP since it was launched 17 years ago. Indeed, Nielsen Research last year found most Australians 51 per cent had either tried online dating or would consider doing so. These figures reflect just how many people of all ages are now single and keen on finding a partner. These days most young people don't settle down until they hit their late 20s and that means plenty still looking for a mate at an age when their parents had been married a good five to 10 years.
Many remain unmarried through to their 40s. Indeed, the of women in their 30s without partners has almost doubled since And, finally, there's the baby boomer generation which now contains increasing s of singles - a mix of never-married, divorced and widowed. Few ageing baby boomers are keen on shouting over the din of noisy pubs or bars trying to chat up prospective dates. Looking for another option, many are attracted to the gradual approach offered by online dating. It allows for the ''self-paced development of a relationship,'' says the smitten Peter Leith, who likes the arms-length opportunity to read through profiles leading to ing, phone calls, Skyping and finally a meeting when trust is established.
And if an year-old can do it …. Success stories are attracting new groups to online dating, both young and old. In June11 per cent of RSVP's more than 2 million members were over 55, with a similar percentage now The largest group is aged 33 per cent followed by 26 per cent and then 19 per cent. Just as many men as women are ing the major websites overall, but eHarmony acknowledges more females than males in all age groups over 35 - reflecting the gender split among singles in the overall population.
The latest Australian census figures show more unpartnered women than men in all ages over for year olds there are nearly 70, more single women than single men. The increasingly social acceptability of online dating has meant these large s of single women have recently become far more active, ing online sites and then actually approaching Online Dating - women seeking sex Australia. When RSVP started inmales outed females almost two to one and it was rare for women to make that first contact. Now many older men revel in finding themselves in a buyer's market, on the receiving end of a lot of female attention.
Some love it, others find it overwhelming.
Online dating has become hard work due to the huge s, with some people being swamped with attention and others hardly noticed. Facing such tough online competition, many seek professional help with the daunting task of presenting a profile that stands out from the crowd. In the US this led to a crop of new dating ''coaches'' or dating ''concierges'' - offering to help take the hard work out of the online process by helping with profiles, doing searches, offering strategies and support.
Similarly busy professionals can outsource the daily grind of conducting searches and sorting out suitable prospects. With more dating sites starting up all the time, choices can seem overwhelming. There are now dozens of sites in Australia, including many for sex hook-ups, and a rash of new ones targeting specific groups such as the over 50s, usually attracting too few people to be really effective. People most in demand - the young and good-looking and well-educated, successful men - are likely to get lots of attention on most sites, from free ones such as OKCupid and Plenty of Fish, to the latest craze for the younger set, the smartphone app Tinder.
The Tinder app offers a heterosexual version of Grindr, a hook-up app that allows gays to check out local action. With Tinder, potential matches living locally are judged hot or not - on the basis of a photo and perhaps a tagline or two - and with a flick of the finger accepted or discarded.
This process is not for the faint-hearted. Those with less obvious attractions need to work much harder, choose their dating site carefully and make sure everything is working for them. Take professional women seeking to find a partner from the sparsely stocked pond of well-educated men.
Even for women in their 30s the outlook can be grim. According to census figures, almost one in four women in their 30s who have a tertiary degree won't find well-educated men of the same age - there are only 85, unattached 30s' graduate men forsingle graduate women. This means graduate women must find a website with the largest possible pool of these highly eligible men - less likely to be found on the free sites - and one where they choose their own search criteria to find the best prospects.
RSVP also enables members to remain anonymous by hiding profile photos, a major attraction for women in big jobs nervous about their public reputations. Having posted an online profile, professional women can't afford to sit back and wait to be approached, particularly if they are not displaying their photos. Many men limit their search to profiles with pictures. Yet women can still do well if they are prepared to make the first move - on RSVP they can show the photos privately to men they approach.
It's surprising how women resist taking that initiative. That's one of the most perplexing discoveries from my recent work as a dating coach - old-fashioned s' dating rules still have a firm grip on many otherwise cluey women. They trot out all the old cliches - like ''men prefer to be the hunter'' and ''they don't like pushy women''.
Obviously there are some men like this but most male clients report being delighted to be approached, particularly when the woman pays for that vital first contact. That's a bridge too far for Sydney divorcee Diane Rymple, 54, who has been using RSVP for more than three years under the name ''ladylikestodance''.
She's willing to make the first approach, sending free ''kisses'' to prospective dates letting them know she's interested in making contact. Often they respond positively to her attractive photos showing bright-red lipstick and a wide, warm smile. A chivalrous man will have the breeding to be willing to make that move,'' she says.
It doesn't help that she's set her sights high - quite literally. She is centimetres and limits her search to the small pool of professional men more than centimetres. When I tower over a gentleman it doesn't feel right. It isn't easy teaching people that they need to be more realistic about what they are looking for - they can't date anyone they can't attract.7 Free Dating Sites With No Sign Up - Free Online Dating Sites #onlinedating #freedatingsites
It's particularly difficult with older women whose last date was 30 years ago when they were in their prime, knocking young men back like flies. Many don't take kindly to rejection - the dating world is full of women complaining they meet only losers, hardly the attitude likely to turn their luck around. Miffed women often write profiles that include snarly comments about men such as ''No players need apply'', an approach that is unlikely to deter a womaniser, and other men may be put off by this negativity.
Men also make this type of mistake. I told one of my male clients that he was doing himself no favours stating in his profile that he had no interest in women with ''hidden agendas'' - a dead giveaway that here was a man who had been burnt. So often people have no idea they are giving the wrong impression. A woman chooses a profile photo from her recent trip to Paris hoping to display her sophistication, not realising it can put off even some well-heeled men who decide she's a spoilt princess.
I tell male clients not to mention sex in early exchanges after hearing from one man who was getting no response at all to his lively, witty profile and attractive photos. When he sent me some of the s he was sending out I discovered he was boasting he was ''tactile, sensual and sexy'', which was as subtle as a sledgehammer and likely to put off even women in his age group still keen on the dancing doona. Not everyone can cope with the online process of finding a partner. Some people are remarkably resilient, dealing well with the inevitable kicks to the kerb and treating the whole thing as an interesting adventure.
They are the ones most likely to end up finding partners, or at least some welcome new friends. Others give up too easily when their search for a soul mate doesn't immediately pan out. Yet success stories are everywhere.
We all now know couples who proudly acknowledge they met online and that new openness is contributing to the current explosion in membership. Sadly, seven months into their relationship, she was diagnosed with terminal cancer and died 18 months later. It took him a couple of years to be able to face the idea of looking again for a new relationship. But he's now back on RSVP using the name ''distantthunder''. Through online dating I can get into contact with women I just wouldn't meet any other way.
Love across the ages in online dating. Please try again later. The Sydney Morning Herald. By Bettina Arndt February 18, — 3. Save Log inregister or subscribe to save articles for later.
Normal text size Larger text size Very large text size. And if an year-old can do it … Success stories are attracting new groups to online dating, both young and old.
Canberra man Paul James talks glowingly about his first online dating experience saying. Paul felt online dating was his only real option as he works in a male-dominated industry. He knows the process can work and is just hoping lightning can strike twice. Bettina Arndt is a journalist and dating coach. this article.Online Dating - women seeking sex Australia
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